When I first heard Tony Robbins talk about the power of changing your life story, I took it literally. It was as if he handed me a magic eraser, and I went to work wiping away the parts of my life that felt like heavy weights: the death of my father, an assault I experienced as a teenager, and a period of addiction. In their place, I wrote a new story—a heroic tale of someone who had everything going in her favor and made it to the big time, building a hugely successful company complete with all the perks.
The Power of Reinterpreting the Past
But here’s the thing: that shiny new story didn’t work. It was hollow. No matter how hard I tried to push away those painful memories, they kept creeping back, reminding me that they were still part of me. I thought changing my story meant pretending those traumas hadn’t happened at all.
I was wrong.
What I came to realize, and what has profoundly shifted my life, is that Tony wasn’t telling me to erase the past. He was telling me that I could change the meaning I gave to those events. My trauma would always be part of my history, but it didn’t have to be the roadblock it once was. It could become a source of strength.
You see, the truth is, I couldn’t delete the death of my father, the assault, or the addiction. And I’m glad I can’t. Those experiences, as painful as they were, shaped me. They taught me resilience, courage, and the sheer force of will it takes to rise from the lowest points. What I needed to do wasn’t to forget them but to reinterpret them in a way that empowered me.
This is where Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) came into play. RTT isn’t about pretending the past didn’t happen. It’s about helping us reframe the meaning of those events. When I went through RTT, I began to understand that while I couldn’t change the fact that these traumatic events occurred, I could change the way I viewed them. Instead of seeing them as scars that would forever hold me back, I started to see them as badges of honor—evidence of my courage to overcome.
RTT helps us access the subconscious mind, where so many of our limiting beliefs about trauma and pain live. It’s in that space that we can begin to heal. By changing the meaning we attach to painful events, we stop allowing them to define us as victims. Instead, we see ourselves as survivors, as warriors who have faced incredible battles and come out the other side with newfound strength.
For me, accepting that I couldn’t rewrite history but could reframe its meaning was a turning point. It allowed me to harness those experiences and use them as fuel for my life. My father’s death, the assault, and my addiction—they don’t make me weak. They remind me of how courageous I am. I overcame unimaginable challenges, and that means I can overcome whatever comes next.
If you’re reading this and you feel weighed down by your past, I want you to know I’ve been there. I know what it feels like to wish you could erase it all. But I also know the freedom that comes when you realize you don’t have to be shackled to those events forever. You can change the meaning you give them. You can turn them into a source of strength that propels you forward instead of holding you back.
Your story is yours to tell. Not because you’ve deleted the painful chapters, but because you’ve learned to reinterpret them. And that is what will make you unstoppable.